Monday, November 03, 2008

Why is that embarrassing?

So the word embarrass basically means to feel awkward or ashamed.  Certain things are embarrassing to certain people...it's not a constant thing.  I've come to conclude that something is embarrassing if it does one of these two things:  A) It makes you feel foolish.  Another way to say it is that it makes you feel like a lesser person either intellectually, socially, or economically.   B) It makes you feel vulnerable.  It is showing something that you believe others should not see.

With those things in mind I've been thinking about things that embarrass people that really should not fall into either category.  They are neither things that make you seem foolish or exposed...they are just silly and some downright funny.  Let's have a look.

1. [for the ladies]  You are in a public place and you drop your purse and your belongings come spilling out for the surrounding folks to see.  Embarrassing?  I think not!  There is nothing foolish about the accident of dropping something you are carrying.  It happens.  Oh and the belongings in your purse?....WOW BIG SHOCK!!!!!  You are carrying some makeup, a cell phone, some photos, your keys, an ipod, perhaps some feminine products, maybe even a camera!  I never would've suspected those things!  Ok, yes I would.

2.  You are at the gym or maybe going for a run (or just for fun) and you are listening to an ipod and you are wearing headphones.  Without warning you accidentally pull the chord of the headphones and they come flying out of you ears or off your head.  What do you do?  You quickly look around to see if anybody noticed what a terribly embarrassing thing just happened to you.  Yeah, you'll never live down that incident which probably has only happened to a few unlucky souls in the history of headphones.

3.  You are just sitting there and your stomach growls and other people hear it.  OMG you are hungry?  WTF man, please control your uncontrollable and natural body sounds.  Sheesh!  Your friends will talk about it for years probably.  How foolish of you to be hungry - idiot!

4.  You passed gas and it smelled not good.  every.body.has.done.that.  disclaimer: this one depends more on location, location, location.  

5. You have a stain, spot, spill, etc. on your shirt.  Being a klutz can certainly cause some awkward situations, but unwanted items will land on your clothes regardless of your level of klutziness - it's only a matter of time and nobody has a clean record.  Got a grass stain on your jeans?  So, all that tells me is that you were in the grass.  Have a ketchup stain on your T-shirt?  Ok cool, you had a burger for lunch which I'm rather jealous about thank you very much.  Don't worry about it - you don't lose any points for not having a spotless wardrobe.  The thing that troubles me more that folks getting embarrassed about these things is the irresistible urge for somebody to point out the fact that you have something on your shirt.  SO WHAT?!?! DO I LOSE MY CHANCE AT THE FINAL PRIZE IF I HAVE A DROP OF COFFEE ON MY SHIRT?!?! Get a life.

In conclusion, embarrassment is a very subjective thing but if some folks would simply learn to laugh about the silly things that happen around them we all might be having a better time.  Instead of worrying about your invisible reputation that is so fragile a simple bodily function can send it all crashing down, enjoy the little uncertainties any day can send your way.  And above all, don't take yourself so seriously...nobody else takes you that seriously ;)